You’re a modern day mom, giving your all to your family, your husband or partner, your career or passions, and striving to maintain that perfect balance between giving to others and taking care of yourself. From the time your eyes open in the morning until the time they close at night, you are always on - doing, being, and loving. Somedays it feels as if no matter how much you do, it’s never enough. At the end of the day instead of feeling fulfilled, you are exhausted.
Hello beautiful goddess,
I have a question for you...
What could be if we all removed this phrase from our life ~ "This might sound crazy but..."
and instead honored our own imaginative thoughts and ideas as truths.Read More
I’ve always heard there’s an opportunity in yoga to take it to the mat and tears may emerge. What those people mean is, when your emotions feel heavy, when you can’t find the answers, get yourself to a class, stat.
I used to question the thought of someone crying in yoga. Like, how does that even happen?
Until it happened to me.Read More
2016 - it’s been a year of cycling through all these identifying questions.
Ones like, Who Am I?
What is my purpose in life?
Who am I serving?
Do I even want to work to serve?
What if I just quit it all and wrapped up in a blanket and never showed anyone the real me?
Could I live happily just me and my family, no outsiders let in?
This quote came to me while golfing, of all places. I was in a scramble - which means 4 players hit each time and you play from the best of the 4 shots. So the three guys went and their shots were meh. It was my shining opportunity to bring one home for team. I hit. It went sailing. Gorgeous air. By far my longest tee shot ever! But it was off to the right. Unplayable. In the woods.
At that very moment I had both joy and disappointment evenly mixed. Here was my best shot ever (If it had gone straight) and I was completely disgusted and felt like I let my teammates down. I felt like I let myself down. Knowing how the brain works, I knew it would continue to associate these negative feelings with my best shot ever, unless I shifted mindset.
Goddess friends - you deserve to have it all.
So let’s get real. It doesn’t matter if you’re wanting your kids to sleep in later, or money for that thing you really wish you had, or a better relationship with your partner.
What is the *one* thing you are really wanting?
When you bring your focus to that which you desire, it’s saying you’re willing to put your energy forth and really commit to it happening. You declare, I am worth this and it’s a priority in my life. Other things may flitter and flutter to the wayside momentarily, because that’s true focus.
Combined with openness, the belief that it can and will happen, you have the power to manifest anything it is you so desire, as long as it’s in true alignment with your highest and best in this world.Read More
I may not know you, but I know your soul. You have traversed a path that is long, filled with longing for more, twin flamed with rage, and abused by this world. I feel your hurt and I cry tears for your pain. I know it, too. For I am you, and you are I, and we are one. Our pain ~ the trauma of life ~ it shows up through many filters, in many flavors, and yet ours is the same.
As a Goddess in this world, we know, we feel, and we subconsciously remember the trauma of those who have walked before us. The inability to share our magic publicly, the power struggle to name what we know and feel, and the hurt when others imply they know what is best for us, over our own wisdom and knowledge.Read More
This feels like a big ah-ha for me. I've spent so much energy and time healing old wounds and for that I am grateful. I've learned some of the most progressive healing techniques in the WORLD, have studied, interviewed, and been face-to-face with some amazing spiritual teachers. I have had the intense honor of using these lessons with women from 4 different continents to help them heal their past and it's all a gift.
But as I now step into my purest self, I have to wonder if these past 10 years had to be spent in that space?
What if time was an illusion? What if instead of time, you tuned-in to how much energy or capacity you had in a day?
Imagine for a moment questioning your own intuition double-time drains your source.
Would you still spend your resources there?
When we start listening and stop pushing, life unfolds magically. When a day is magical, there's room, time, and resources for everything that fills your soul.Read More
Dear Soul Sisters,
Goddess one, love on you. You have carried the darkest of dark within your body, within your soul. You have come face-to-face with death and like a human-being who has experienced near-death themselves, you - goddess love - you have a window in front of you, maybe even a giant, massive, door into the divine. It’s waiting for you to enter. Are you ready? I’m here to hold your hand.Read More
Underneath all the layers, there is a seed within you that is coded with your purpose and your truth. Identifying and nurturing this seed will allow the bounty to ripen and grow. Yet in this growth process, there are times the darkness is comforting even though we need the light to flourish.
What does it mean, “To be seen?” Could it be less about visualization in the public eye and more about aligning with your truth and highest purpose? It’s common to think of TV hosts, musicians, comedians, movie stars as those being viewed by others and still I know a slew of people who aren’t famous in that light - sharing their soul with this world and making a difference in people’s lives.Read More
For as much I talk about and use tapping in my life, it seems fitting that I have a post that is dedicated just to EFT!
EFT is known by many as emotional freedom technique, tapping, self-acupuncture, the one-minute miracle and more. I often refer to as this crazy, silly, tapping technique that helps you tune in and turn off all those things that aren’t serving you.
What if you were given the secret to letting all those icky feelings that come up during the day actually move through you and out of you? How many times a day would you cash in on this golden little gem of a secret?Read More
When our expectations of independence rise dramatically a child can’t keep up. This feeling of lack leads to vulnerability and then appears to be a neediness in itself. So it appears mommies don’t get to have a bad day because a bad day often appears to go downhill the rest of the day. My wish for you is tools to turn a bad day into a better day.Read More
You see, bedtime had been a struggle for us for many years. My son insisted we tend to him through all hours of the night, leaving both myself and my husband beyond sleep deprived and on the border of depression. We tried for so long to be “attached” parents, until we learned how to honor our needs while still meeting our son’s demands.Read More
Mama exhaustion, let me just say YOU are awesome. I know you’re doing everything you can in your own will and power to do what’s best for your family. You are perfectly imperfect those long nights you sit with some real and deep emotions, and imperfectly perfect each day, just the way you are. I know you are wondering what you did to deserve this. Seeing your friends struggle less than you, wondering, why you? You may think you are being punished for all the poor choices you made in this world. The truth is you are being guided to see yourself in a new light. To be a newer version of you.
Sleep is more than this thing we do at night. Those who rest easily each night call it restorative. Those who have kids who have slept well from the start say it is relaxing. I call bullshit. Relaxing? No, those of us who have been sleep deprived with a child who doesn’t sleep define it as something very different.
We define sleep as pain. The very thing that causes us to struggle with acceptance of where we are in life. The very state that causes us fear and sadness. The one thing that makes us feel like we are failing at parenting. Sleep (or lack of) brings us face to face with our own anger.
But sleep isn’t just a state of being or a noun… Sleep is a lesson, a practice, an art. When you step back, examine your own internal beliefs about sleep and your own self-defeating comments you voice when your child won’t sleep, you are unknowingly gifted with a list of core beliefs that may no longer be serving you. These statements such as,
I’m not good enough… Something must be wrong with me… I am the worst mother, I don’t even like my child when I can’t get him to sleep… No one understands me or what this is like…
The very thoughts that keep you awake at night. You have come face to face with your own anxieties. And it is hellishly scary and lonely and depressing. What if I told you learning to reframe these anxieties will lead to more sleep in your house? Instead of trying to fix sleep, maybe is it in your highest and best to repair your relationship with self? Listen to your negative self-talk; mother it. When did you first learn this about yourself? Breathe into those thoughts as you allow them to become lighter, softer, moving through you. Invite in new energy, positive thoughts such as,
I am perfectly imperfect and perfect all at once…. I am safe in this world…. I am learning to love myself and my family more everyday…. I am open to understanding me, my thoughts, my beliefs…. I choose to love and accept all part of me and all parts of my child….
Emotional Healing and self-care, that is a state that is restorative for mind and body.
The connection between you and your child is linked via energetic fields. When you retrain yourself to feel calm and connected at bedtime, your child is learning to feel calm and connected at the same time. As you release the fears of your little one not falling asleep or waking at any moment, you notice your child sleeping more and waking less. When you catch yourself labeling your child as a “bad sleeper”, you’ll begin to see how our self-talk and labeling shapes our world.
You’ve been thinking this is all about sleep. (I know because I did too!) It’s really about you. And parenting. And growing. In a very odd, demented way, you are lucky. When you learn to conquer stress during extreme exhaustion, the skills you learn will enable you to be a calm parent as your child grows. You are completing quite possibly the ultimate emotional marathon. And as you make progress on this journey, sleep will fall into place.
Dear mama who’s exhausted, you’re being asked to learn self-care. It’s not optional, it’s essential to surviving sleep deprivation (because you will survive.) You’re being called from your higher power to have a deeper connection with self, more compassion for self, and releasing the old programming which no longer serves you. There are many paths to self-care, from yoga to EFT Tapping (my fave!), therapy and more but nothing is as powerful as acceptance: “Even though there are parts of me I do not love, I am worthy of accepting all parts of me with love and grace. I am worthy. And I am loved.”
I see you, dear one. We are connected through experience. Through extreme exhaustion, I have felt your pain. I know it gets better. You are strong. The days will be brighter. You are an imperfectly perfect mother, just as you are. I believe in you. And I love you for the work you are doing in this world. You are a blessing to many.
A mama who’s been there and survived